Two roads diverged in a wood,and I—
*I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference…*—Robert Frost
Dear Jack Domenic,
I hope you'll keep this letter tucked in your pocket,always,always.
There is bound to be a time inyourlife when you have to decide between A and B.This decision will seem like the most monumental thing you've ever had to wrap your brain around (it might very well be).Fear not.So,you won't sleep much and you may even shut down and seek out solitude—no shame in that—you'vegot some figuring out to do.What will everyone think if I choose A…if I choose B?How will society view me based on my personal experience and the choices I made?You will agonize,my sweet son.
When you do decide to say,end a relationship,embrace a surprise,even stick up for the kid on the school bus,you may wonder,Did I make the right choice?It may haunt you for some time,after all,there will be people out there with absolutely no association to you or the specific scenario at hand that feel the need to attack you foryourchoice—your choice.They don't matter.Their hate doesn't matter.The bitterness is coming from their very personal,dark place.It's not for you to rationalize.Waste no time feeling like a lesser person.If anger does result,use it.Write something,paint something,take a spontaneous road trip and laugh the whole way to that random destination,wind on your back,sun on your face.Always have the last word,Jack—even it's just to yourself.
If I could protect you from your first broken heart,the unforeseen,split second,life changing event,or the agony you may feel when having to come to me with a dilemma—the but-how-do-I-tell-Mom thing,I would.But I can't.My heart has been broken,my world has been paused,my parents have calmed my tears,open-armed.Life seemed impossible at times for me,too.However,I can guarantee you this,sweet boy,it's not as bad as it seems.In the instance?Oh yes,it's all very "life is over,I've ruined myself,how will I ever recover from such pain." But,in time,that will dissolve and you'll find yourself,like Mommy,having taken the one less traveled…And that has made all the difference.
I love you,
P.S.Always,always remember,your life will change with every decision you make.It's a beautiful thing.