Q: My boyfriend is the guy that taught Negative Ned all he knows.He is so negative,and the smallest thing going wrong will ruin the next week of his life,no matter my efforts to improve his day.It really takes a toll on our relationship—I am at the receiving end,every day.What do I do?
Negativity sucks,plain and simple.It can't be easy at all dealing with somebody who's makes Eeyore look like an optimist.And the problem with Negative Neds is that you can't change them.They have to want to change on their own.I'm not sure what the right catalyst for that change would be but something dramatic has to happen to make them realize that they are often the very reason that their lives blow more cajones than the entire cast of a Bang Bros play about peanuts.
My suggestion to you would be to first and foremost explain to him that his negative attitude is ruining your relationship.And believe me,it is.One can only deal with negative energy for so long before they succumb to it and roll bounce like Bow Wow.If that isn't enough for him to at the VERY least consider that perhaps he needs to look at things differently,then I feel sorry for his mother.Well,that's not true,but I take any opportunity to quote the Asians fromMenace II Societypossible.
If you have a lot of time on your hands and are ready for a battle royale,you could attempt to rebut his negative inklings with positive ones.Every time.Each time he gets down about something,you could come at him with the silver lining or positive attributes that a particular situation holds.Anything to refocus and reframe the conversation away from the realm of undeveloped pictures.
And if that doesn't work,get him the happiest toy on earth,a Tickle Me Elmo,and dare him to maintain his sour disposition.If that doesn't help I suggest getting a new boyfriend.
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