What with the fireworks in theSheen household(at first it seemed as if theteflonCharlie Sheen, thehighest paid actor on television, had choked his wife--then it seemed more like just a drunken dispute, and that she'd made that up), the theme to this Christmas seems to have been sabotage.As the snow continues to fall and the dust begins to settle, post X-mas, it might be worth examining our dating lives, and asking how we engage in self-sabotage.
Stop living in your own head.We all need to get over ourselves.Sometimes I spend entire afternoons considering what pants would look best on me (the answer is A.P.C.jeans, though Levis 501's are also winners - I digress).Our lives need to be bigger than this, or at least less outrageously and egregiously introspective.
Stop obsessing about what you wear.While the right shoes, hair, nails or dress may get you a look, focusing on these things can easily derail your train of thought (from the brilliant conversational in which you're both transfixed), your confidence, and your entire evening.The preparation for an evening is so different for men and women, but I put a lot of stake in comfort, not just in physical comfort, but in how I feel about what I'm wearing--I don't leave the house until I feel like I look good.But once I'm out, I'm out.
Stop repeating mistakes.Most of us know how it goes.We know our patterns, who we're attracted to, and why it doesn't work out.If you're turning over a new leaf, or looking for something different, look for the signposts on those well-traveled roads and ask yourself how you can change directions.Do you need always need to have a boyfriend?Try starting things slowly.Are you someone for whom the chase is the highlight?Try someone who chases you for a change.
Do you think you engage in self-sabotage?How about your guy?If so, how?
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