在她的新书里，Grin and Bear It: How to Be Happy No Matter What Reality Throws Your Way,Jenni PulosFlipping Outfame shares some intimate details about her path to success.Here,she talks about failure—and 10 career no-nos guaranteed to get you there.
我和同一个人分居两次后，婚姻失败了，我觉得我们很幸福！I failed in my career.I wanted to become an actress but instead,最后我在一个真人秀节目中出演了我的日常工作，which I hoped no one in Hollywood would know about.我没有让我的汽车和公寓清洁。I failed Spanish at UCLA.甚至Flipping Outhas been something of a failure because my boss,Jeff Lewis,不断提醒我我把事情搞砸了。
The more mistakes I made,我越是意识到没有什么可怕的，只有积极的经验才能得到。The trick to gaining something positive from failure is to find the reason why you've failed,从中吸取教训，and then eliminate one or even twenty more things that have been obstacles.Look at failure as a teacher rather than something that defines you negatively.
我认识的最成功的人，respect,and admire all have war stories and major battle scars from their failures.我知道你以前听过这个，but it's true: It doesn't matter how many times you fall down.你回去只是要紧。
Jenni's top 10 ways to fail:
1。Don't do the work.
Here's what I know for sure: no one really sustains a career by being lucky.Robin Williams and Jim Carrey have often spoken about how they used to practice their material in the mirror for hours,天，weeks,and months—however long it took until it no longer felt rehearsed but natural.Succeeding requires dedication to your craft,继续研究，在困难的情况下学会做好工作。
2.Don't keep your promises.
如果你不愿意坚持下去，许下承诺是不值得的。In your business or personal life this is an act of destruction.你不能保证向慈善机构捐款，也不能写支票。Not keeping your promises is a surefire path to failure.
三。Keep lying because everyone is doing it.
我假装我的职业生涯真的开始了，当它真的是一辆汽车因为一辆香蕉车翻倒而卡在405高速公路上的时候。I told everyone I met that I was a great actress and a talented,funny comedienne when I had no idea what either of those two things really meant.Whenever someone was attentive or had the desire to show me how to be better,I had no interest.Their attempt to help me grow meant nothing to me because in my mind,I was already talented and well on my way to becoming a star.
你必须愿意比你想象的更努力地工作。This is what is called "the process." When you don't think you have five more minutes in your day,find it.When you think you can't do ten more sit-ups,去做吧。当你认为你找不到时间关注你的家人时，算了。爱默生曾经说过，"The difference between a hero and a regular man is that a hero was braver five minutes longer."
5.Present yourself in an inauthentic way and expect real results.