Most of us have been nervous about meeting our significant other's family for the first time,but Redditorklondikebicycleencountered a source of anxiety we don't normally face: a past one-night stand.
The original post in which the 32-year-old describes this interaction has since been taken down thoughthe commentsremain,but the gist is: When he met his fiancee Janie's family for the first time,her sister looked familiar—because,he eventually realized,they had shared a steamy night years ago.The sister didn't say anything,so he assumed she didn't remember,but now he feels weird keeping it from his fiancee.At the same time,though,he's afraid disclosing the rendezvous would only hurt her.
Here's what Reddit commenters thought he should do:
"Write Janie a letter.Seal it,date it,and lock it away in a safe deposit box or something.Tell her what happened.Tell her how you feel TODAY.Tell her why you're choosing her over your past.Tell her WHY.Then if,God forbid,one day she finds out,you have the answer to 'Why didn't you tell me?'"—mandilew
"I'll say this: secrets have a way of coming out.I sincerely doubt 40 years will pass with this secret staying a secret."—IDontF--kingThinkSo
"This has so much potential to backfire.I'd absolutely want to know.If it came out accidentally (or whatever) later on,everything you'd ever told me would be suspect."—FriedNemo
"You assume her sister didn't recognize you.Maybe she didn't.But she might remember as time goes on.And there's always a chance that if she does,she could tell her sister."—Vessira
"You take that secret to the grave.What does it benefit either of you if you tell?You were single,so was she.Years went by,and you discovered an amazing girl,who happens to be her sister.Don't worry about it."—MadamelronMouse
"I think for most people,sex with a sibling would be a deal-breaker."—JuniperBeans
After considering the responses and receiving messages from people who wish their significant others hadn't disclosed their sexual histories with their partners' siblings,klondikebicycledecided not to say anything."I personally would not want Janie to tell me if she had slept with my brother in the past before she met me," he wrote."What good does it do me to know?"
Would you rather know if your significant other had a past with one of your friends or family members?Or would you prefer to be kept in the dark?