Being 30-something and single when all of your friends are getting married is hard enough—trust me,I've been there.But when your younger siblings are the ones walking down the aisle before you,I imagine it adds a whole 'nother level of aggravation.
Hey,buddy!Could you wait a decade or so to propose to my kid sister?
Obviously you want your siblings to have their happily ever afters,but once you do the hugs and congrats and glasses of champagne,here's my advice for making it through a younger sibling's wedding (and the months leading up to it) without shaking every great aunt who looks sympathetically your way.
Put on a happy face when you're together.Any engagement—especially a sibling's—comes with a bunch of emotions.And feeling jealous or a tiny bit resentful is totally normal,I promise.If you're feeling sad,you have every right to vent.But turn to a friend,a co-worker,or your college roommate—anyone but your sibling,who is probably dealing with a whole bunch of stress of her own right now.
Have faith.If your little brother (who publicly picked his nose throughout high school) or your baby sister (who you're pretty sure still sucks her thumb) can land a better half,then there's no question you can,too.
__Ask to bring a date.__There are very,very few times I think it's okay to ask the bride if you can bring a plus one.Guests lists can only be so long,after all.And each additional guest costs the bride and groom a bunch.Still,even if you're single,I think you should have the option to bring a date to your siblings' weddings.If you get the go-ahead,be sure to give an extra-nice gift.
__Go on the offensive.__If everyone from your boss to your mom's bridge-playing friends is asking,"When's it your turn?" have an answer—preferably one that changes the subject fast—at the ready."Probably after I finish master's degree.Did you go to college?" or something else that alludes to the fact that you're not sitting at home wallowing in your singlehood should get the trick done.Or try,"Not until I can find someone as wonderful as your husband," which is particularly effective her husband is in the corner teaching your cousins how to armpit fart.
Do you guys think it sucks when a younger sibling gets married first?Or do you think that's totally fine?Has anyone had a younger sibling married first?Or is anyone the baby in the family—and the first to be married?How'd your sibs deal?