“你以为我这辈子在酒吧里跟女孩子搭讪过，哈。但如果我说了，“可爱”，而不是“性感”。It's a subtle difference, but there definitely is one. And in a small group. It's hard enough to go up to a girl when she's chatting with 2 or 3 friends, but outright impossible when she's with 6-7 girls. And of course, not already talking to a guy."-Mike, 30
“说实话，一个总是笑个不停的女孩让我觉得很自在，可以和她聊天。我才不管她是不是在逗我呢!独特的个人风格。Doesn't matter to me exactly what it is, but something that shows that she's confident about expressing herself. It could even just be one small thing, like an interesting ring."-Lucas, 29
“要想在人群中脱颖而出，女人能做的只有一件事……用微笑和我做眼神交流。Even if she isn't interested in me or me interested in her she will stand out in my mind. Although hopefully she's interested if she gives the little smile and eye contact. It doesn't matter what she looks like, what she's wearing, or how she looks....I'll remember her." -Bryan, 32
“嗯，我想饮料的选择是一个很好的指标。If I would see a girl ordering a cosmo at a dive bar, I'd be more than likely to avoid said girl. No offense to her and her drink choice, but through a long history of research (being in a fraternity and coming into contact with sorority girls) I'm pretty sure we won't have much to discuss. Now if she is ordering a tall boy of Labatt or possibly a glass of wine (don't want to anger my wife, a wine-drinker) I was more likely to approach. Please note: I never approached girls in bars, I would mostly talk about approaching them and instead get amazingly drunk and wander home and lament that I didn't approach them.
我想，至少对我来说，另一个好的指标是，她看起来没有太努力。我的意思是，如果她没有穿一些不可思议的低胸衬衫或其他吸引注意力的东西。对我来说，这意味着她没有时间或精力去和一个只会说“所以你……喜欢的东西吗?” I'd be more likely to be comfortable speaking to a girl if she looked like she just came from a day of hanging out with friends and had just stopped home to change into a slightly more fancy shirt."-Ryan, 31