No matter what you think or how you feel about any relationship,particularly your own,there will come a time when you have to proactively ensure that the passion will not take a backseat to monotony and routine.
It's not the relationship or the people that become boring;it's just the repetitive day-to-day routine that makes everything feel so lackluster.
So what do you do to keep your relationship upbeat and your significant other happy?How do you "keep it interesting so this relationship doesn't lose its zest like so many others?Easier said than done,but it can be done.As a guy,here's what I wish more women would do:
__Take it slow to start.__While it's great to be up front with your feelings and put everything on the table—don't give everything away too fast.Leave a little mystery in the relationship and let the fondness grow in its own time.Even if you know you love a guy from the moment you lay eyes on him,make him work for the intimacy and the affection.The longer you wait,in every sense of the word (you know what I mean…),the better it all feels later on and the more excitement you will stir in the beginning.You don't want the relationship to peak prematurely,so try to strike a balance between honesty about your feelings and some moderation and patience.
Say "I love you."OK,so once you say those magic words,keep saying them.There's nothing more lovely than hearing those three words and knowing someone feels that way about you.Alternatively,there's nothing more anticlimactic than hearing that phrase and then never hearing it again.Be generous with your physicalandverbal adoration.Doesn't it feel good to say it anyway?
__Support your personal growth.__What I think kills most relationships is not only growing lack of interest in the other person but also lack of interest in the personyouare when you spend so much time with him/her.To avoid that boredom,never stop changing and growing.The person you are when you meet your mate is not going to be the same exact one you grow to become months or years later.People change,so changewithone another (and actually embrace and encourage it) so that you can really be yourselves..
*Ryan Serhantis our resident guide to guys.In addition to living and dating in NYC,he's a cast member of Bravo's *Million Dollar Listing New York(Wednesdays at 9 P.M.on Bravo) and a broker atNestseekers.View all of Ryan's posts.