As a single parent, I admit to dedicating portions of my time to thinking about my future.My future family.Over the weekend, my friends Renee and Marc were married-in a blizzard.As a result, the majority of the guests, myself included, spent the night in a hotel.The next morning, while I waited for my friends in the lobby, I noticed a family.A mom, a dad, two kids (they probably had a golden retriever named Buddy at home).The little girl had on puffy pink boots that made a "shhhh" sound when they brushed against each other."Daddy is cleaning off the car," Mom said.The kids spread their palms across the big glass door and peered out into the white, bright winter wonderland that had appeared overnight, and for a moment, I pretended my husband was cleaning off the car and that JD and I were going to join him soon in an overheated space with beaded droplets dripping down the windows.InScripting a Fantasy of a Family, author Mindy Kalingfinds her mind wandering to parts unknown as well.Have you ever imagined what your future family will be like?What prompted it?
Kaling writes: "Of course, since I was little, I've pictured countless different versions of that family. The weirdest things will make me dream up an entirely new version. When I'm watching television and I see an ad for a hotel chain where "kids eat free." Photo frames that have a fake picture of a family inside them already. Driving by Sizzler."Cut to happy family on a beach:
You know those commercials!For me, it's the new one for some big chain jewelry store.It's 2 A.M.and Mom is rocking a restless newborn in a chair by a crackling fire.The tree is aglow.Of course there is snow falling outside the window.She has on a bathrobe.It's pink!Husband comes downstairs in plaid PJ pants looking groggy and removes a small box from under the tree.Mom is like, "Honey, what are you doing?" Husband says, "It's our first Christmas as a family." Knife in my heart!Not to sound cynical or whiny, but yes, of course this makes me think...things.And I always return to thoughts like these: JD lying against my side as I read the same book three times in a row at night because he says "gen!" (again).JD acting like he's seeing me for the first time ever when I pick him up from school.JD feeding me a french fry off his plate and saying, "Here, Mama." So while the illusion of some other family or life may creep up on me, I'm here right now, living it, and I'm happy to be in it with my JD.Here we are (happyon a beach):
Still, be honest, like Kaling and me, do commercials, ads, television shows or real-live people you see on the street ever make you think about your future family, or have you been making up scenarios of how their lives might be?Sometimes I wonder what people think when they see JD and me dining alone in a diner or buying fruit in the green market.I wonder if anyone wants to be like us.
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