Call it an age of self-involvement if you must,but tracking the data of your life is having a definite moment these days,and I'm on board with it.I track my daily steps,my sleep patterns,my water consumption,and (ready for some TMI?) my,um,cycle.And I swear,I'm not even obsessive about any of those things.I just like to be aware of my patterns.
So it makes sense,given the popularity of apps and devices to track your data,that this trend would move into the world of romance.Enter the Boyfriend Log,an app available on iOS to monitor your day-to-day feelings in the love arena.(Why it's so gender-specific instead of just "the Significant Other Log," I can't say.) Each day,you answer the question "How was your relationship today?" with a color-coded response that indicates if you're feeling sad,happy,romantic,angry,or otherwise.Then,when you look back at the history of a month,you can see what the predominant emotion was.
A roller-coaster relationship like Mindy and Danny's would be all over the color wheel,right?
What do we think of this?I feel torn.On the one hand,I could see this being beneficial the way keeping track of any other habit is.When I started tracking my steps,I became aware that I needed to move more.If you started tracking your honest feelings about your relationship,you might find that you're not as happy as you thought and need to talk about some things.Or you might see patterns of when you tend to fight,and be able to zero in on the causes for a stronger relationship.(You could even compare relationships if you're dating more than one person casually.)
On the other hand,if you suspect that you're unhappy more than you are happy and might want to keep track,there's probably a good chance you already know the relationship isn't working.Plus,if you don't tell your boyfriend that he's now the subject of a log and he sees it,he might not look too kindly upon it.I could see this being the source of even more tension.Would it be worth it?
Would you try tracking your relationship feelings?Why or why not?
More to be aware of: 8 Habits That Wreck (Even Great) Relationships