Decisions are hard.Until I was 14,I ordered sandwiches with one side toasted and one side non-toasted,because I couldn't make a choice.Thesis: Boys are like sandwiches?
Single ladies!This topic feels especially prescient because I'm at my mother's house for the week of Passover and my little sisters and I are watching all of Season 3 ofSex And The City(I know,I hate myself,etc.) when Carrie has to decide between Mr.Big and Aidan.OK,so she actually cheats on Aidan,but there are other ways to go.
Althoughdatingtwo guys and having to choose between them is certainly somethingmy friend Julie'smom would call a "champagne problem," it can be tougher than it looks.So here are some things to consider.
Do you even have to choose yet?Not that he needs to put a ring on it,but if you're not exclusive with either of them,go ahead and keep dating them both.Playa's gotta play.But!If you start to feel like you're "cheating" on one of them with the other,even though you've made no outright commitments yet,that might be part of an answer about feeling more strongly for one.Ask yourselfif one guy makes you feel more like a great,interesting,funny and pretty lady.Someone once told me,"It's not about how much you like who you're in arelationshipwith,it's how much you like the person you are with him."Are they super-lopsided in terms of qualities?For example,is one of them really hot and the other really smart?Together creating your most fulfilling dream guy?It could end up that once you dump 50 percent,the other 50 percent suddenly seems a lot less appealing.Lists!Oh,gosh,I love lists.Make a list of 20 qualities you want in a guy and see how both of them measure up.Works best in aMoleskine notebook.This may contradict the last one,but try not to overthink it...because then you'll freak out and act weird and they might both be like,"F*ck this." Also,you won't have fun and be clearheaded if you're panicking.Which one gives you butterflies?Whom are you more psyched to hang out andhook upwith?Granted,some people don't think sexual compatibility is everything,but I am of the opinion that it means a heck of a lot.Have someone threaten torip you in halfand see what each guy does.King Solomon's wisdom is timeless.Make a human pyramid.Because how often do you get a chance to do that?